Tue, 07 Apr 2009 12:00a.m.
I've discovered my first hurdle to overcome in the wedding planning process - choosing the bridal party!
Both FH and I have the same problem - we can only have two people each in our bridal party, but we both have three people we'd really like to be involved. The simple (and obvious) solution would be to have three bridesmaids and groomsmen each, but therein lies the problem.
Our venue is small, and the most desirable table layout only allows for a bridal party of six (including FH and I). We're both from two kid families, so it’s a no brainer that our siblings will feature in the bridal party (and conveniently FH has a brother, and I have a sister).
Which leaves us with two close friends and only one spot to fill.
How do you choose between your two closest friends!?
To further complicate things, close friend number one gets married in March 2010, and close friend number two is her bridesmaid. Its probably a bit ridiculous, but I have to confess that I've (secretly) agonised over the decision for months! Do I choose friend number one, and risk potentially stressing her out just weeks before her own wedding (not that I plan on being a Bridezilla*, but there's always a chance)? Or do I choose friend number two, and risk her feeling as if she's always a bridesmaid?
So I thought I'd asked FH how he made the decision between his two closest friends. Do you know what he told me? He said (and I quote) that he put no real thought into it, he just decided! If only it were that simple!!
I finally plucked up the courage to talk to the girls over a wine last week, and I think they both found it hilarious that I'd agonised over the decision for so long! Both girls told me to flip a coin, and that they'd both be happy either way.
And in case you were wondering who I chose - I still haven't flipped that coin!