Dating site 'thin only' event causes outrage

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Wed, 29 Jun 2011 10:38p.m.

The invitation is for those who identify with a fit and trim body type

The invitation is for those who identify with a fit and trim body type

By Liz Puranam

An Australian dating website has enraged Kiwi women by organising an event where the women attending must be size 10 or under, while the men can be any size they like.

Fast Impressions say they're just catering to men who like slender women, but women here say it's discrimination.

Lea Devereaux is five feet seven inches and weighs 55 kilos. She's usually a size eight or nine, so when the dating company she signed up with a year ago was holding an event called "slender women", they sent her an invitation.

“So they send you an invitation saying you have to be between a size 6 and 10 to go. I would never go on principle alone. I was appalled,

“If you are under a size 10, you can come to this. However, the men that are invited to this can be any size that they like. Get real! That's discrimination, against women, but in general, it's wrong,” she says.

The invitation is for those who identify with a fit and trim body type, but women's groups say that encourages bad body image.

‘We have so many New Zealand women who are worried about the way they look and it's preventing them from going to social events, it's interfering with their self esteem and their health practises and it's these types of events and these types of messages that are adding to the problem,” says Deb Schwarz of the Eating Difficulties Education Network.

But Fast Impressions says it's just responding to demand from its clients in Auckland who wanted such an event.

“I don't think dating is really about political correctness or discrimination. You've either got a preference or you don't.

“That's the nature of dating and what we do is we simply meet that demand and put on events that we know our members want to go to,” says CEO Justin Parfitt.

He says the event, scheduled for July, is almost full.

3 News also spoke with Auckland's largest speed dating establishment Table for Six this evening, who told us they would never hold such an event because even if there is a demand, it is still discrimination and derogatory to women.

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Comments [25]

Ron
21 Dec 2011 12:11p.m.

I actually think this organization "fastlife" does promote discrimination of an ugly kind in the dating process. They hold events for "Tall Men" and "Brown People". We should not be excluding those who were born in a certain way from love and we should not be reinforcing negative stereotypes about people. That said, I'll only listen to those women who are pissed of by the "Thin Women Dating Event" when they go to the barricades protesting the "Tall Men Event" because they are both equally bad.

Mark Brooks
05 Jul 2011 08:40a.m.

This controversy will result in more business for Fast Impressions, ultimately. A good PR move. Even if it does alienate a portion of the userbase. This service runs many more niche dating events, but the news doesn't cover that.

Dorian Modra
05 Jul 2011 02:34a.m.

If you think that's bad, check out what this site is doing. It's basically prostitution by another name: http://forpoorer.blogspot.com/2011/06/whats-your-price-prostitution-or-good.html

Andy
04 Jul 2011 05:09p.m.

Jared

I have a job that is stable and fulltime and want a partner. The fact that I have a lower status occupation should be no barrier. Did I say I want to leach of a women NO!! So only proffessionals can find love, women should judge men by status alone.

So if a fit blue collar guy says no to a chubby women its called selfish.

Jared you sound like you vote labour. Please explain how low income men can be catered for.

Andy

Justin Parfitt - CEO of Fast Impressions
04 Jul 2011 12:18p.m.

I run Fast Impressions and made the point in my interview with TV3 over and over again that the slender women event is just one of many speed dating event types we hold, including events for Tall Men, European Men, Men in Uniform etc. We also host Big and Beautiful Speed Dating for larger women. Needless to say this was all left out of the final edit. And the petulant sign off about Table for Six was just so infantile, a shockingly bad and completely biased piece of reporting.

Davo
03 Jul 2011 03:23p.m.

Hmm, nigel, how many women come running to you?

Gary
03 Jul 2011 03:21p.m.

The only people who are objecting to this excellent idea, are fat bastards with a complex about their weight. Why dont they piss off and start a 'fat bastards only' dating group???

nigel
02 Jul 2011 05:59p.m.

As a man I have to say I am so shallow, I am high. My personal preference is for hot babes, personality is overrated, most people are the same. A really well proportioned figure is what I like and that does not imply a large bust, big or small it is all about proportionality. Megan Fox is way hotter than her replacement in Transformers and who cares about her personality!

Miss Virgo
02 Jul 2011 03:21p.m.

Too bad. If some men are shallow enough to only enjoy a woman's company based on her size, then let it be on his own head, just as it is a woman's choice whether she attends the event or not. Thanks goodness for free will. In fact, this has merely untapped the prejudice that some size 10+ women hold against women who are not. Some of whom, I can only logically conclude, do so as an attempt to deal with their own insecurities by attacking others. Tall poppy syndrome, anyone? Instead of acknowledging diversity of different body types, they'll criticize a size 8 girl by calling her a "boy", "skinny and scrawny" to quote Katrina, accuse her of having psychiatric issues, or even go as far as saying she is not a "real woman". Last time I checked, having a vagina is means you are a real woman. Ironic, isn't it?

Lea
02 Jul 2011 03:15p.m.

Ian, how is this envy? Not only do I fit the size range, I was invited to attend (at a discounted rate I might add). I'm not quite sure you get the story line! This is not about 'Slender People' speed date it's about 'Slender Woman' which means the men can be any size the want (do slender woman want to date large men, medium men, slender men?, well you wouldn't know as they never got the choice). Yes this is discrimination. Yes I have a life lol, but I do not want my daughters to think that this is ok, because it is not! Being fit and toned Jake comes in many sizes, and being healthy is very important, I have friends who fit the NZ average of a size 12/14 who can run rings around many women who are smaller dress sizing. I do not agree with this and sometimes people have to stand up for what they believe (as a friend said if you feel so strongly don't just sit there and whinge.. do something) because if we don't stand up for what we believe what does that teach our children. That a woman is less desirable if she is over a size 10 or that any person male/female does not deserve to be treated equally.

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