Family want answers over boy's death

12 Feb 2012 07:36a.m.

Mike wrote:

Another life lost in a pointless fashion.

At some stage someone needs to put a hand up and take some responsibility. I grew up in an enviroment with dangerous things like piles of logs were some of the less dangerous things. Today if parents could be bothered to tell the kids that climbing on a pile of logs was dangerous, the kids would turn around and do it anyway. Fenced and signs - how many construction sites have exactly that and yet still have kids playing in after hours?

Pile of logs could be some trees cut down, or logs for some construction project at the school.

Pile of logs looks harmless, yet with as little as a couple of kg can change the situation. Additional signs and fencing individually around workspaces is not always practical. #1 is child supervision, #2 is teaching children to avoid danger which comes initially with supervision. A kid who has not been told will view almost anything as a playground. If a child is told something is dangerous often a small demonstration they learn and often even a 5 yr old will then be reasonably safe even around dangerous things. If a child learns that that say a parent tells the truth, then if a parent tells them something even without a demonstration, they will be more inclined to listen.

Had a cousin visit when I was younger, was told not to touch the electric fence, given the demonstration of the electricity with a piece of grass. When everyone wasn't watching the cousin then reached out and grabbed the electric fence deliberately - often the best learning teaches the hardest lessons.

If anything we need more of these pointless deaths till parents wake up and care for their kids more that they take some responsibility. Its unlikely to happen as when such a tradgey happens, its never the families fault.

Even the most caring families in the world, accidents will still happen.

11 Feb 2012 08:21p.m.

Waco wrote:

Lets start with the parents first why was a 5 year old out on his own? Who was in charge of the boy.What were the parents doing at the time.CYPS should be looking here in case other children are in danger of not being looked after.It is so easy to lay the blame of other at a time like this a it is the easy way to ease the guilt.

11 Feb 2012 06:38p.m.

Dad of 3 wrote:

Next time you visit a school and you find completely fenced off then this is why, before I continue I would like to clarify one key point, condolences to the family concerned, no family wants to lose a loved on at all no matter who they are, however were are the parenting skills gone, they the relatives say the person who stacked the logs is at fault or there was no signs, get real new Zealand, observe what your children are doing, what if the same had happened if the child had run onto the road, it would have been said o the car was speeding, and as for the person who said there should have been signs, WAKE UP THE KID IS NOT GOING TO READ THEM, CONTROL WHAT YOUR KIDS ARE DOING, some may say im heartless, but take a moment to think about what ive said, and for the do goodies, yep im a dad of 3

Thanks for reading and keep safe

11 Feb 2012 06:04p.m.

Stacey Sanders wrote:

This is a very sad accident but that is exactly what it is...an accident. There are a number of people we could point fingers at but why does it have to come down to that? At the end of the day a young life was lost, lets not ruin another life by playing the blame game.

11 Feb 2012 05:33p.m.

Erm... wrote:

So, not the fault of the parents who should have been keeping an eye on the child? Why was a five year old ALLOWED to be at the school after hours? Same old, same old...find someone else to blame.