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Wed, 12 May 2010 7:27a.m.

By Sasha Madarasz

I run an introduction agency called Two's Company. This sees me organising 80 to 100 dates every week and I do follow ups after every first date. After seven years with my finger firmly on the pulse of the dating world; I have a very clear idea of what works and what doesn’t when it comes to dating.

  • The number one thing a man looks for in a woman is a woman with time for a relationship. Next on the list, someone who is not high maintenance, takes pride in their appearance, has a career and goals, and has a great down to earth attitude.
  • The number one thing a woman looks for in a relationship is a man who has his own life, friends and hobbies. Next up honesty and respect, confidence not arrogance, a great sense of humour and a decision maker who has a good work and life balance.
  • If you walk out after a first date thinking that it was ‘ok’, have a second date – don’t over think it, its just a date. How many clients have said to me when asked if they are going to have a second date, “well I thought about it over the weekend and decided no”. What have you thought about? What was there possibly to think about? Again, relax, it’s just a date. (Only internet dating is exempt from this rule).
  • Men, women love it when you offer to pay for dinner. Sure woman can afford it but its 10 points for chivalry if you do. When a man feel like a man a woman feels like a woman.
  • Don’t do coffee on your first date unless you are dating off the internet. It’s not an interview as to whether this will be your future spouse, it’s a date. Get dressed up, have a wine, don’t take yourself too seriously, enjoy another fellow human being.
  • Never talk about your ex. Even if they ask you questions, brush it off gently. There is plenty of time to talk about past relationships down the track.
  • After seven years of what you could call research, I advise Kiwis against reading American rule books on relationships.

    My clients are not looking for a social life, they have one. They simply have few opportunities to meet other single people. These people have contacted me because they are serious about meeting someone with the long term in mind.

    No one can predict chemistry. All agencies like Two's Company can do is to make sure you are meeting the single people of your choice.

    • Dating Advice with Sasha Madarasz
    Sasha Madarasz is the director of ‘Two’s Company’, an Introduction Agency for busy single people that specialises in introducing like-minded people. With seven years experience Sasha Madarasz has become one of New Zealand's most sought after dating experts.
     
    For further information visit the Two's Company website here.

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