Much has been made of sex therapist Bettina Arndt’s new book The Sex Diaries: Why Women Go Off Sex and Other Bedroom Battles.’
Arndt has come out publicly saying that, when it comes to sex, women need to say yes more often and engage in sex even if they’re not really in the mood.
Arndt’s book uncovers the night-time drama being played out in bedrooms everywhere -the creeping hand and feigning of sleep, the staying up late in the hope that he will doze off. It is one of the great inconvenient truths of relationships that after the first blissful years together, most men want more sex than their female partners.
Bettina Arndt recruited 98 couples to keep diaries, revealing their intimate negotiations over sex. Who feels like having sex? Who doesn’t? And how do couples cope if one person wants it more than the other?
The author says in her book ‘From the time I started working as a sex therapist back in the early 1970s, people have been talking to me about their sex lives. What I hear about most is the business of negotiating the sex supply. How do couples deal with the strain of the man wishing and hoping while all she longs for is the bliss of uninterrupted sleep.’
Arndt draws on her 35 years of experience as a sex therapist and psychologist to provide a provocative analysis that challenges basic assumptions about sex.
The now notorious author proposes a new approach to how couples can enjoy regular sex - and sustain loving relationships.